Max loves nursery

Quite simply Max adores nursery. A statement in itself that isn’t rare for a two year old but when we tell people Max attends nursery 4 days a week, people are often intrigued that a child with DS goes to nursery at all.

To be fair Max’s mummy working full time and the reason Max attends nursery is a rarity, with only 3% of working mums with a disabled child doing so (compared to 39% of mums with a non disabled child*) Often suitable childcare being the main issue, along with a lack of flexible employers.

In the UK, it’s illegal for a nursery to prevent a child with a disability in attending, but as two friends have experienced in recent months, nurseries can often find barriers to make it impossible for them to do so.

Max has attended a mainstream nursery since he was 9 months old and has thrived. The nursery he attends have been supportive since the start (which is why Max’s parents settled on this setting) There have of course been challenges for both parties as Max is the only child at the nursery with DS, so they’ve learnt as Max has developed.

Max not having any serious underlying health issues of course helps, although Max’s frequent illnesses has meant each one is normally followed by a period of extra medicine or change of routine that we’ve had to communicate and in trust to nursery to follow.

Max’s nursery in the main have been proactive in adapting activities to suit him. For example as Max was not standing until recently, meant nursery adapted painting so he could sit doing it and giving him the baby menu until last month as he wasn’t ready for the toddler finger food menu before.

Max is support at nursery by all his development support workers such as his Physio and Portage. They regularly visit him at nursery to monitor his progress and give advice to nursery. They all give glowing reports on each visit.

We’ve recently introduced a Communication book to update each other on observations on Max’s development, which is very important when a child’s development is so closely observed. It’s also been useful to find out when Max is pretending he can’t do something but will quite happily do the same activity elsewhere!

Lastly, why do we think Max enjoys nursery? Apart from him ruling it (all the kids know Max and every morning we have lots of kids saying hello) children with DS are known to learn better from their peers. This is certainly the case for Max who is often observed watching his friends and then trying to copy their actions.

Whilst we don’t know what the future holds for Max in terms of education, we know for the moment we have a happy two year old who loves nursery.

* Papworth Trust Disability Facts & Figures 2018

Snot, snot everywhere…

Max has a cold. A hazard for most two year olds when you’re in the germ pit of hell that is nursery, but for Max his extra chromosome makes a cold a bit more problematic.

Firstly his lower immune system makes him more susceptible to catching germs (not helped that lots of kids like to hug and kiss him) Secondly he has extra small internal tubes which makes snot harder to get rid of, so he gets bunged up, making his oxygen levels drop. Thirdly he produces more snot than most adults, let alone other two year olds!

What Max does have in common with most toddlers is;

  • Hates having his nose wiped and acts like his snot is being being robbed from him when you do!
  • Cannot blow his nose. How many toddlers can blow their noses and how do you explain to a two year old how to do it?
  • Snot it sticky stuff, particularly if it’s dried onto a face. Superglue has nothing on the super powers of snot!
  • Likes to share his snot on occasion, particularly on Mummy’s clothes and ideally when you don’t notice until you’re at work and it’s dried on.
  • Irritable when he has a cold and NOTHING mummy or daddy do is right
  • Can be right as rain one moment, charging around the house and then next wanting cuddles and milk because he suddenly remembers he has a cold 🤦‍♀️

Let’s hope we have a early spring this year and the cold season finishes soon!

Max’s new level of cheekiness and a dirty bottom

One week on from Max getting glasses and he has totally surprised us and loves them! Well “love” might be a strong word and he certainly doesn’t “love” putting them on but he’s definitely appreciating a whole new world since he can see more clearly and even cried last night when daddy took them off him for bed!

To be fair if you haven’t been able to see up close since you were born, it’s probably a revelation to see the world more clearly. With his new eyes on the world Max is taking in people’s expressions, looking at books and even trying a few makaton signs!

Being able to see more clearly has given Max a further zest for life and chaos! The latter was demonstrated yesterday when he was able to work out how to take off his nappy which contained a rather nasty present for mummy. He thoughtfully left this for mummy to find in the middle of the living room and crawled off, with a rather naked and dirty bottom 🤦‍♀️😂 Good job Daddy has a carpet machine.